Our other aim is to teach you a set of skills that will allow you to handle painful thoughts and feelings far more effectively, in such a way that they have much less impact and influence over you. We call these skills ‘mindfulness skills’. Mindfulness is a mental state of awareness, openness, and focus. In a state of mindfulness, painful thoughts and feelings have much less impact on us. In a state of mindfulness, we can effectively handle even the most difficult feelings, urges, memories, thoughts and sensations – and as we learn to do so, we can break self-defeating habits or destructive patterns of behaviour; let go of self-defeating beliefs; rise beyond our fears and change our attitude in life-enhancing ways.